Thursday, October 25, 2012

Coming Out of Hiding


"Every time you suppress some part of yourself or allow others to play you small, you are in essence ignoring the owner's manual your Creator gave you and destroying your design." - - OprahWinfrey

" When you finally expose yourself and let yourself be known, the sky does not fall.  Instead, things begin to unfold; miracles happen"   
- - Suzanne Falter-Barns

I came upon these two quotes recently. In between, I read something about the Story of the Talents from the Bible.  What all this is saying to me (screaming at me, to be more accurate) is that it is indeed time to come out of hiding.

I suppose we all hide parts of ourselves ... to one degree or another.  Whether for fear or embarrassment or what ever reason we might come up with, it is an all-too-common practice for us to hold ourselves back … To hide, what may in fact be our most brilliant qualities.

OK, OK, so we all do it.  So, what do we do about it?  What do we do to make this "coming out" any easier?
  
Maybe, the bottom-line truth is, there is no easy way.  I can once again make an analogy to the process of birth.  There is no way around it, birth is messy and in most cases is painful!  So, if those are the facts ... if that is just the way it is ... what can we do?
  
Like with everything else, the first step always has to be awareness:
 
1.  Being aware that the process of coming out may be messy and painful, alongside
2.  The fact that staying hidden is probably even more painful.  
 
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - - Anais Nin
 
But, here's the tricky part.  Somehow the pain associated with holding back and staying hidden is so familiar, that we don't even realize that it’s painful.  Or, maybe we are so deadened to the pain, we don't even realize it's there anymore.

So,
1.  We start with awareness.  Then,
2.  We accept the facts for what they are, as they are.  And then,
3.  We take an action.

Now this can get to be a bit tricky or sticky, as well.  Here's where courage or faith or support or any of the untold qualities we need to move forward in life Must come into play.  For most people, it's much too scary to take these kinds of steps alone.

Think of it like this.  A baby will tentatively and precariously attempt to take their first steps alone and more likely than not, a loving parent can and will be there to aid, assist, support and then, acknowledge.  So, we, too, need those very same things.

Oh, sure, we can do it on our own.  And probably have done it on our own.  I know I have. But, it certainly makes Life and "Moving Out" or "Coming Out" ... Being All That You Can Be ... BEing Your Very Best Self ... Living from Your Magnificence ... all come a lot easier when allowing ourselves to be supported.

So, ask yourself What Are My Talents That I'm Hiding?  The answers may not come to you immediately, but they are there inside of you, just the same.  Maybe you need to write about it?  Ask yourself the question ... sitting in front of a blank piece of paper with pen in hand ... and then just see what happens.  If no answers come, ask the question again ... and again ... and again if necessary.  The answers will come.  The answers are there.

Or maybe you need to paint about it ... or draw about it ... or collage about it?  Make some time ... create some space ... turn off the noise and allow yourself to become quiet. As Sarah Ban Breathnach says,

"Allow the static of the world to clear ... and the soul's Morse Code to come through ... There is no more exciting, inspiring and important adventure than the reunion with your Self.  There is no gift from Spirit greater than knowing who you are and owning [her] with joy and gratitude."

© Susan Schanerman 2012